"Homewreckers" don't exist.
Let's be serious, sis. THE MAN chose to cheat...
We all know society likes to blame women for all of men’s bullshit.
Cheating scandals (where the man cheats) are, of course, no different.
It’s the girlfriend or wife’s fault for “not seeing the signs”, for not “choosing better”.
Never the man’s fault. For, you know, choosing to fucking cheat!!!!
It’s the other woman’s fault for tempting him, stealing him, leading him astray, away from his beautiful family, ruining the lives of his partner and kids, like the little slut that she is.
The “homewrecker”.
But here’s the thing, sis — this mythical “homewrecker”…she doesn’t exist!!!
Because this she…is a HE!
The cheating man.
Let me make something perfectly clear.
No other woman can ever “steal” your man. And if they can, he was never yours to begin with.
Because a man is not a valuable, vulnerable, helpless and precious object that can be stolen, like a diamond necklace or a million pounds. A man is a fully sentient, fully conscious and fully autonomous human being who knows exactly what he is doing.
And listen, sis. I know society coddles men like their babies. And a lot of men do tend to have that level of emotional maturity. But a man is not a baby.
He knows exactly what he is doing.
And thus, there is no “homewrecker” woman. “Homewrecker” is a misogynistic slur used to blame the other woman for the man’s choice to cheat! The man wrecked his own home by choosing to cheat.
The man wrecked his own home by choosing to cheat!
THE MAN! WRECKED HIS OWN! HOME! BY CHOOSING! TO! CHEAT!!!!!
BY CHOOSING TO CHEAT!!!!!
Bear in mind, cases where the woman cheats place no blame on the other man. She, of course is demonized as Lucifer himself by the public. No fucking surprise. There is no “male” homewrecker.
Therefore, “homewrecker” is a misogynistic term slur used to blame the other woman for the man’s choice to cheat.
And “homewreckers” don’t exist.
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This is so freaking true. It always icked me out when women were demonized on the news for being “home wreckers”. Thank you for writing about this it’s so important ❤️
baby hear me out okay🛐
i do feel you on holding men accountable—like fully. the core betrayal is always his,always. like he broke trust, he broke the bond. and yes, society’s obsession with blaming ‘the other woman’ way more than the man is 100% rooted in misogyny not taking away from that at all. BUT i do think we can hold that truth while also acknowledging that some women knowingly insert themselves into dynamics where someone’s already committed. it’s not about them being the bigger villain, it’s about understanding how internalized misogyny plays out in real time. some women want that validation of being ‘chosen’ over another woman—because patriarchy taught them that makes them more worthy. that’s not why he cheated, but it’s part of the dynamic sometimes. its why she still did that.
other than that i feel like this does need to be debunked before we can even come to my point. simply because it so up in our faces 24/7. so either way good job bb😘😙😗😚